DamiaJ Hi there! I’m Damia, nice to meet you. I’m a single, free-spirited, laid-back lady who, when I’m not working on this blog, enjoys reading, writing, spending time with family and friends, and working out. Okay, maybe I don’t enjoy working out but I really like to eat (I may be a bit of a foodie). Wow, I feel like … Read More
Have you ever read a book and felt as though the author knew you personally? No? Well perhaps you should pick up No Thanks: Black, Female, and Living in the Martyr-Free Zone, written by Keturah Kendrick, a woman who bucks all the societal norms, (not really sure why we continue to let society define what’s normal but that’s a diatribe … Read More
Author of the forthcoming, No Thanks: Black, Female, and Living in the Martyr-Free Zone (She Writes Press: June, 2019), Keturah Kendrick has written about her experiences as a free black woman choosing herself over all others for her personal blog as well as other publications. She is the host of the podcast, Unchained. Unbothered. and the chief content contributor to … Read More
Next week, I have a date with a man who stated on his online dating profile that he is looking for his life partner. Like me, this man is in his early 40s. “Looking for my life partner” no doubt translates into “I am finally ready to take on a wife.” I am not interested in being a wife, … Read More
Twenty eight years and two children later I’m back in the dating world. But am I really back and what am I back to? It’s been two years since the separation and ultimately divorce and not one “date”. No movie, dinner date, walk in the park, hangout…do I really need to continue? All this begs the question: when is … Read More
Kim has dedicated her life as caregiver and advocate for Breast Cancer awareness. She is one of the founding members of Ladies With a Purpose Rock whose mission is to help others in need through fundraising, partnerships and community collaboration. She is the owner of Lavi Concepts, LLC which promotes health and wellness through natural skin care and aromatherapy. Kimberly … Read More
Brunnie’s work as a clinician for over 20 years includes experiences in a wide variety of settings such as out patient psychiatric facilities, mental health agencies and school systems. Her utilization of holistic modalities, in conjunction with her skills as a counselor, provides clients with unique therapeutic experiences. She can be contacted at www.brunniegetchell.com
So, “you’re out there”. Welcome to the dating scene. You’re either on a dating site searching for “the one” or you’re frequenting clubs and meet up single events hoping the “wrong one” doesn’t approach you or ask you to dance. You might also be the brave warrior willing to accept the occasional blind date that well-meaning friends and family convince … Read More
Now you may be asking yourself what in the world are macronutrients, right? Simply put, they’re the main nutrients that make up the foods we eat which are carbohydrates, proteins, and fats. Another way of looking at it is macronutrients make up calories. The body cannot produce macronutrients on its own. Now I’m sure you’re asking yourself why you should … Read More
Let me start with an apology about the rant I’m about to go on. I promise if you bear with me it’ll all make sense by the time you finish reading this post. I’ll be honest, I used to think being fit was directly proportional to the numbers on the scale. The skinnier I was, the better and more fit … Read More
Ladies, are you so used to taking care of everyone else that you end up putting yourself last or neglect yourself entirely? I call that the Wonder Women complex. Join me on Saturdays at 10:00 and put yourself first for a change. This 30-minute workout will focus on your butt, thighs, and abs. This group is for women of all … Read More
Most people want money simply because it affords one the power to be ‘respectfully’ immoral. I would go so far as to say that if you have enough power & prestige, you don’t even have to try to justify your wrongdoings because your followers will do it for you.
Random Sex Conversation between a friend and me this New Year I: Hey my friend, it has been ages, how have you been? Him: I have been good, how are you, work and all? I: Just great my friend, all great Him: Glad to hear, & good to speak with you again, by the way, when are you getting … Read More
I recently finished reading Nikki Barrett’s book, More Than a Mile and I was inspired by her story because we are not defined by where we come from, or the environment we grew up in. If God has a plan for you (and I believe He has a plan for us all) then nothing you can do will offset it. … Read More
Have you ever paid attention to your thoughts? More to the point, do you have things you tell yourself like: “You’re not equipped for this” “Is this really what you want to do?” “You’re not ready”? I have. I’m starting to pay attention to when these thoughts come to mind and I’ve noticed that they usually occur when I’m about … Read More
As I indicated at the end of each part of my chat with Lamont, you can submit your questions for the next segment of our chat here.
I fell down. And it hurt because most falls, actually all falls, hurt don’t they? I suppose it comes down to how much it hurts. So I fell down and it hurt, but not that much. I was in a relationship for about 5 months and it recently ended. It ended with the quietness of of a sunset but with … Read More
We all have a friend that’s always upbeat, happy, sees the world through the proverbial “glass is half full” lens, right? Well for me, that’s my friend Christie. As long as I’ve know her (about 16 years) she’s been this way. As a matter of fact, it annoyed me at the beginning. But then we started talking while planning … Read More
You can connect with Clayton on the following sites- https://www.facebook.com/WhoElseCouldItBeButGod/ https://claytonreidjones.wordpress.com/author/claytonreidjones/ You can catch Clayton on Let Men Talk. Make sure to subscribe! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWqHFbUev7DIWfR_U8WT86A
I’ve been wearing a mask. I didn’t realize it until I took it off. Now you might be asking yourself how did I take something off that I didn’t know I was wearing, right? Very, very good question. I became friends with one Clayton Jones and somehow, someway, he’s helped me understand that removing my mask was analogous to surrendering … Read More
Michelle Malone took some time to chat with me about some of her life experiences and goals. I definitely learned a lot from talking with her and I think you will too once you view this video. Check out Michelle’s blog, Two are Better Than One.
I’ve been seeing quite a few posts on social media filled with emotional “rhetorical anxiety” in lieu of the outcome of this election. But here’s something that I think isn’t being considered amongst the consensus: instead of seeing America as having put on a new mask, perhaps it may have just removed one.
As women, and more importantly, as human beings, we all search for something or someone to complete us. To make us whole, and bring all of our pieces together. The question we need to be asking ourselves is, “Why do we need someone else to do that?” We all know the age-old saying: “How can you expect someone to love … Read More
Hi! My name is Brittany Amaya, founder of TheBetterScale.com, a self-love campaign. I love sharing my perspective and ideas through my writing. I love myself, and the people around me. I enjoy learning about different cultures and views of the beautiful world we live in.
Single is the New Black, Don’t Wear Right ‘Til it’s Right You can find out more about Dr. Karin here. Save
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It’s all about picking your battles. A superb warrior needs not accept nor win every one. Lord knows I’ve sat through my share of unjust reprimands and for the greater good I’m willing to stomach many more.
When it comes to dealing with objective truth, many of us are unwilling to deal with it until circumstances force us to do so. Until then we develop superficial justifications for our procrastination. .
So there I was, on my way back from school to my parent’s place, I had been craving chocolate cookies for about two weeks, so I had made a mental note to get one in a supermarket in town. I got to Ijebu-ode town just few minutes to six, I was in quite a hurry that evening because shops start … Read More
I just finished reading Jennifer Aniston’s article For The Record and it made me want to stand up and clap. Jennifer’s fed up y’all. And honestly, most of us are or should be. Fed up with what you ask? The media’s portrayal of women. Rather than go into a lengthy diatribe, I’ll just highlight three things that irk me the … Read More
The show I mention during this interview is entitled The Circus: Inside the Greatest Political Show on Earth and comes on Showtime, Sundays at 8:00 PM EST.
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One of the major traits of cowardice is feeling the need to apologize for being a good person.
As I see it, there are very few differences that are totally irreconcilable. Because of ego, very few people are willing to put forth effort to work towards mutual understanding. And it is that unnecessary obsessive divisiveness that plays a huge role in humanity’s stagnation.
The way I see it, there’s too much emphasis on living lifestyles and not enough on living life.
I remember my first job at Ledo’s Pizza as a carryout girl. Well, not A carryout girl- but THE carryout girl. Basically my job was to take orders, so that’s what I did. From customers, from management- there was even a bathroom break schedule to follow. Being told when I could take a break, or use the bathroom never felt … Read More
If you’re single and not reading Single is the New Black then you, my dear friend, are missing out. This book gives voice to myriad of challenges we as single women face in a world that’s seemingly built for two. Or rather, that’s the narrative we’re sold, right? If you’re single then something must be wrong with you. You’re … Read More
For me, the secret to looking good is to not try to. Just take care of yourself and work on “being” good and just let the beauty come to you. Only the shallow-minded and insecure folks will view this as an arrogant post. LOL. Save
Hallo lovelies, call me M.J, first name Mary, last name Job. I grew up in Lagos, Nigeria among a family of six. I love diversity, both in my thoughts and in my dealings. I enjoy being that #Techie, #Philosopher, and #NewMedia #CrazyGirl behind the scenes of great accomplishments. I know you must think am crazy already. Haha. My academic background lies between philosophy, … Read More
Being a single girl in Nigeria is interesting. Why? Because the experiences you encounter are really vast. Aside from the fact that almost everyone believes you should be married with children before you get close to age 28, some others, and a lot at that, believe you have a problem if you’re still single at 30. It’s not uncommon when … Read More
To me, having a good sense of humor generally comes from a dark place. It’s not so much self-pity as it is being able to laugh in the face of intense adversity. This is necessary in order to fully enjoy living. So when someone implies that I’m not “serious”, actually I couldn’t be more so.
We all have our caged demons. I believe our resolve is tested at its greatest when someone manages to pick the lock.
In light of the Pulse club shooting in Orlando, and the resulting Democratic sit in, I started wondering about gun control or rather, single women and gun ownership. Do you own a gun? I know, I know, it’s kind of a personal question. But I’m curious. If it makes you feel any better, I don’t own one, but I’ve thought … Read More
Do you own an adult coloring book? If so, how do you like it? If not, what’s taking you so long 😉?
In regards to recent opinions being thrown back & forth about guns, I figure I’d throw my hat in the ring. My take is that if someone passes the proper background check & spends the money, I have no problem with the general ownership of firearms. But the means by which people are tested to prove responsibility must be totally … Read More
Let’s have an honest, ‘no holds barred’ conversation about thyroid disease. My mission is to stop women from suffering in silence. The best advice I got about combating my disease was from a blog post. FINALLY there was hope, not secrecy.
Dana grew up in the Washington, DC Metro area. She loves music, dancing, reading, electronics, paint colors, and Pinterest. She hates working out, but does it anyway. Her obsessions are Interior Design and Home Staging. She is a Financial Consultant with Professional Group, Inc., specializing in retirement planning. She is also on a mission to empower women to be financially … Read More
I believe it’s okay to admire and/or respect someone you don’t quite understand or get along with. I also have come to know you can have a strong difference of opinion or disagreement with someone you wholeheartedly love and support. We must come to realize that differences, as well as our commonalities, help to contribute to the beauty of this … Read More
I’ve been a daddy’s girl since I’ve been on this earth. My dad is the other side of my heartbeat. He is my dragon slayer, my Superman, my hero. He’s daddy. Ever since I can remember, my dad has been where I go to quiet and restore my soul. While my parents were married, I was always up under my … Read More
Don’t let my laid back disposition throw you. It’s not that I’m not impressed. Being the simple purist that I am, flashy things I don’t fully understand very seldom amaze me more than the things I can comprehend. To me, life in general is amazing so I can’t pretend something impresses me or fake “amazement” so to speak. What’s your … Read More
One night I found myself in a conversation with a couple of people at a bar. We were talking about two big no-no topics: politics and religion. More to the point, we were discussing various political and well known religious leaders of the world and whether these leaders possess over inflated egos. I’m of the opinion that a … Read More
3 Things You Shouldn’t Do in A Healthy Relationship The kisses, the hugs, the affection, the companionship, the love – ahh yes, the love. These are just a few of the things people want out of a romantic relationship. Usually we all experience these blissful things in the newness of a getting to know someone and the start of a … Read More
This is how we should see ourselves and one another.
All my life I’ve always considered the source. Even in my lowest points, I’ve never shamed myself because I know my intentions were genuine. And during those times when I’ve found myself maneuvering through mass confusion (as I anticipate I’ll continue to do), one thing has become abundantly clear. There’s always been an ‘at odds’ war between those of … Read More
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“ The timing was off.” This is what a guy I met online more than a year ago said to me in response to my question about why we had yet to meet face-to-face. I’m still not clear on what it means. And when I asked him to clarify, you know what he said?
Ashleigh Maynor , M.A., LPC, NCC brief bio: Ashleigh is a true midwest girl. She loves to bake, salsa dance, attempt any Pinterest DIY project and serve God through singing in her church choir. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor who enjoys helping others cultivate healthy relationships and discover their career passions in order to live their life intentionally. Ashleigh Maynor, M.A., … Read More
Name: Chuck Brown Hobbies: martial arts, working out, motorcycle riding, movies, music, dancing, creative social interaction “Just my $0.02…” started out as FB posts I used to call “Random thought…” When I noticed other people using the term, I feared getting lost in perpetuity. So I changed it to a term I felt had more humility & wasn’t as popular. … Read More
I. Am. A. Fraud. Wanna know what makes me one? When people ask me how my new job is going my response is “great”! It’s okay, I took it because my previous job made me mentally lazy and I needed another challenge.
This is my promise to myself today. Literally right this moment. I’m serious. I have all these thoughts and dreams and aspirations, yet I’ve been stuck in this space where all I do is think “can I really do this?” and “what if I fail, then everyone will know I had no idea what I was doing?”
I recently asked some friends how they describe chemistry and these are some of their responses: Mutual feelings between the guy and girl and get along well (vibing) Analogous to when you’re absolutely fulfilled, but always wanting more Non-verbal, non-communicative agreement between two parties; it’s when the stars align and the timing is right—when things align and two people are … Read More
5 things I’m struggling with right now:
I recently went out (or maybe the proper term is met up with) with a guy I met at a fraternity happy hour. I’m struggling with the appropriate term because it felt like we were just hanging out more than anything else. Let me back up…I feel I need to add some context to my words.
I recently read Observations and Questions by a Single Guy and felt compelled to share some of my own observations and offer another perspective. Let’s take a stab at the first point…
This is the second part of The Single Guy’s observations about life, dating, money and women; and not necessarily in that order. In the first post, I shared some observations I’ve made and in this post I want/need answers. Answers to a couple of questions that have been burning my brain for quite some time actually. Seriously ladies, I need answers … Read More
March is here and Spring has arrived with it (apparently Mother Nature hasn’t gotten the memo yet and is still punishing us with cold temps). Just a few more weeks of this winter thing and we can start to thaw out and get the blood moving in our bodies. As the bunned up season comes to an end, the Spring … Read More
Well I’d like to say I’ve got some deep and profound advice as to how best to get through Valentine’s Day.
As I close out 2014, I feel compelled to look back (before I look forward) and think about what I’ve learned and perhaps didn’t learn.
This 40 year old is enjoying the good life. All is well. I’m having fun with my family and friends with plenty of laughs to go around. The holidays are upon us and it’s the most wonderful time of the year. At least until I was asked the other day, “why don’t you have a date tonight?”. It got me … Read More
What’s a single guy to do? So many choices so little time and so much time and so little choices. It’s all in a day’s work for a single guy…and yes, single guys rock too! I turned 40 this summer and feel like I’m just starting to live. Being single is fun. How much fun you’re wondering?
I’d like to start off by saying that I don’t happen to think I’m a “gym nazi” per se. Let’s begin with a short definition of a gym nazi, brought to you by urbandictionary.com: Gym Nazi – “Some one or some ones, in your gym who always try to get others to do stuff that they think is so important … Read More
What is the #BraveGirlsWant campaign about? It’s about having more empowered and healthy media characters for girls. Parents of girls today grew up with Wonder Woman and The Paper Bag Princess. Passive princesses don’t mesh with today’s girls who are being raised by their families on the girl power ideas their mothers grew up with. Families are looking for multi-layered, diverse, intelligent, … Read More
I had a completely different idea of what I wanted this post to be about when I sat down to write it. But I guess my spirit had other ideas so here goes… Cancer is one sneaky bitch. She will take what’s yours in the blink of an eye and leave you breathless and shaken. Four years ago, my mom … Read More
A male friend was kind enough to send me an article about Nine West’s new shoe campaign. As, I’ve discussed before, I can’t for the life of me figure out why these brands continue to present everything they do from the perspective of old men. Is there one thing here that is NOT offensive or extremely insulting? Ultimately, this will … Read More
food in·se·cu·ri·ty noun the state of being without reliable access to a sufficient quantity of affordable, nutritious food. I recently watched A Place at the Table, a documentary about the plight of 50 million Americans struggling with food insecurity. The notion of not knowing where your next meal is coming from is mind boggling to me; particularly in this country, yet 1 in … Read More
While it is our mission at Single Girls Rock to redefine what it means to be single by embracing and celebrating it, we are by no means anti-relationship. We came across this 2:00 video of a sermon and thought it funny and poignant enough to share. We think it sums up why there’s a lot to be gained from being … Read More
I recently had the opportunity to spend some quality time with these beautiful ladies who I haven’t seen in far too long. I’ve known them more than 20 years and, unfortunately, it gets harder and harder for our schedules to sync up allowing us to get together. I cannot tell you the last time all four of us occupied the … Read More
Tuesday night was exciting for me. Melanie Notkin, the author of Otherhood: Modern Women Finding a New Kind of Happiness, retweeted the blog post I wrote entitled Why I’m part of the Otherhood tribe and started following me on Twitter. Her actions had a ripple effect, which led to my site getting more traffic then I’d ever experienced. It was a moment of … Read More
I recently read Otherhood: Modern Women Finding a New Kind of Happiness by Melanie Notkin and quickly realized that she could have been writing about my life. The women Ms. Notkin interviewed for this book, along with her personal experiences, mirrored my own dating trials and tribulations.
For those of you who aren’t aware (which up until two days ago included me), Jill Abramson was the first female Executive Editor for the New York Times (NYT). Her career started with the monolith as managing editor, a position she occupied until she was promoted to the position she’d be ultimately and unceremoniously fired from three short years later. She … Read More
A few years ago I read a book entitled How to Get Out of Your Way by Tyrese Gibson. The book resonated with me because he discusses how we are often our own biggest obstacles to achieving our dreams. Oftentimes, the environment we grew up in influences our trajectory and to underscore this point, Tyrese provides his own life experiences … Read More
The three dots at the end of the title to this little blog are ominous aren’t they? I always struggle to answer this question, or the closely associated “why aren’t you married” question when asked. A response doesn’t readily leap to mind which is surprising. It’s like there’s an implied “what’s wrong with you” that underlies the question. I even … Read More
The three dots at the end of the title to this little blog are ominous aren’t they? I always struggle to answer this question, or the closely associated “why aren’t you married” question when asked. A response doesn’t readily leap to mind which is surprising. It’s like there’s an implied “what’s wrong with you” that underlies the question. I even … Read More
Today, Michael Sam, was drafted by the St. Louis Rams. Now you may ask yourself who is Michael Sam? He’s the first openly gay NFL draft pick. Upon hearing what team he’d been drafted by, Michael Sam celebrated by giving his boyfriend a kiss and the cameras were rolling to capture said kiss. ESPN has since been playing the video … Read More
You should know that life won’t turn out exactly like you thought it would. The man you thought you couldn’t live without and would spend the rest of your life with, will shatter your heart, but you’ll live. In fact, he did you a favor by breaking up with you…even though it won’t feel like it at the moment. You’ll … Read More
Recently, a girlfriend and I decided we were overdue for a girls night out (aka: grown and sexy night out) and met for happy hour at a local restaurant. What ensued once I arrived was nothing short of hilarity in its finest form. I got dressed in what I thought was an appropriate grown, classy AND sexy (I happen to … Read More
I’m currently reading The Essential Sheehan, which is a compilation of articles written by running guru Dr. George Sheehan in the 1970s and 1980s. Dr. Sheehan’s articles offer a philosophical take on what running provided for him mentally and emotionally and it has caused me to do the same. You see, I run, but I don’t consider myself a runner. … Read More
I don’t know about you but on any given day (and night) my mind is going, going, going and filled with doubts, insecurities, fears, things I need to do, things I don’t want to do but need to, I could go on but you get the gist of what I’m saying…errr, writing. One day I’m cruising through various pages of … Read More
This week the fashion world lost one of their own, L’Wren Scott, a designer and model. However, the media choose to giver her the sole identity of Mick Jagger’s girlfriend. A number of outlets minimized Ms. Scott’s contributions to the world with this leading headline. “Mick Jagger’s designer girlfriend L’Wren Scott commits suicide.”
I’m 42 and I’m single…there I said it. What does my future hold at this stage? Am I destined to be alone? If so, what does that look and feel like? I’m trying to figure my life out and sometimes it’s scary and other times it’s exciting. Scary in the sense of “what if this is it? What if my … Read More
